Figuring out toddlerhood

No matter what happens.


Through lifes ups and downs, you are with your child. "Be with" its a very powerful concept.

Basically it means, I am ready to contain / accept you, through ups and downs, including your big emotions. I will accept it in as non-judgmental as possible.

Finding the right balance, that you are not dictating your child on how she "should" feel (such as you are okay)- but merely acknowledging her feelings as she is going through it. Let her figure out whether she is okay or not.

Believe figuring out emotions is also child-led, internally you cannot teach it, because you are never your child, you never know how it really works. Some child are more sensitive than others, some takes longer to go through their emotions than others.

Having confidence that your child can work through things, letting her have a go, give her as much autonomous as possible. But always be with her, and give her the options.

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Another important concept is - it is all about what you genuinely think of your child. If you think she is beautiful, your words, expression, responses will reflect that. Toddlers recognises fake emotions from miles away. Be authentic and be authentically happy about you, your life, and it will radiates to your child. Your child copies you, not only physically but also emotionally.

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Now the other side of the coin. The coin that does not come naturally for me - is the discipline part.

Discipline means teaching.

It is part of your role to also teach your child to their age-appropriate boundaries.

Recognise that toddlers have strong impulses, to push boundaries. It is healthy.

There is a choice of either - change the environment, or teach your child.   Wherever possible, change the environment. But when it is not possible, then teach your child.

Try to be as consistent as possible with your teachings.